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January 19, 2005
Birthdays and Deeper Conversations
Tonight, I met up with some buddies to celebrate Calvin's birthday - the first of us to turn 30 this year. Happy Birthday, old man!!! =P
While enjoying the delicious Five Spices Roast Chicken, Lemon Grass Chicken and BBQ Pork Chop at Le Soleil, we shared a heart-felt conversation about our families, careers, goals, relationships and religion.
I think one of the main topics the conversation revolved around was finding contentment in our own lives. In my last entry, I mentioned the need to find contentment in God (I know it's easier said than done), and that in doing so, the perceived need to be in a relationship diminishes. Going a step further, I think that until I reach this "stage" of contentment with myself, any of my desires (e.g., jumping into a relationship) would only serve as a temporary bandage to delay addressing the underlying problem.
Maybe this is why I always get cold feet when I start getting closer to someone I'm interested in? My usual pattern is to crush after someone, pursue her... but if/when things start warming up between us, doubts and questions suddenly flood my thoughts, causing me to retreat.
Some of you are probably thinking... "dude, you gotta just stop thinking so much and go for it!" To which I probably would have agreed in the past... but the problem with this is, unless the other person also is into a fast-moving relationship, the results usually aren't too successful. ;) Plus from my experiences, during those early stages it's sometimes hard to distinguish between love and... well, lust.
My pastor said that before he got married, he was totally content being single (and seeking God) and thoughts of needing to be in a relationship never crossed his mind. Honestly, I'm not there yet -- I keep my eyes open -- but I understand and agree with the motivation behind his words, and striving to put Him at the center of my life.
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I haven't done a restaurant review in a long while, huh? =) Le Soleil is this cute and cozy Vietnamese place on Clement Street, between 2nd and 3rd Street. The food and decor (and prices) are more upscale than your standard neighborhood pho place, but is not pretentious. You get fair-sized portions of fresh, tasty Vietnamese dishes for an average of $9 per dish during dinner. We liked everything that we ordered. =)
The ambiance is on the quieter side and the staff is fairly friendly, making this place a nice option for a low-key dining experience, or date... as Calvin can attest to. ;)
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Hmmm... I noticed I haven't been taking pictures lately. =( I even forgot to bring my camera to Milly and Jason's awesome housewarming party over the weekend (CONGRATS YOU TWO!!! =)), where I got to see familiar faces I hadn't seen in a long while! Blah. =/
I think Ernie's phone pic was the only one taken at the event??
Posted by stevelee at January 19, 2005 11:04 PM
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we really enjoyed the tonkatsu you made steve. ladies, steve is quite the chef if you don't already know.
*thanks*
Posted by: milly at January 24, 2005 04:59 PM
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